My favorite question ever asked in the history of the world is this: "What does it profit a man to gain the whole world but lose his soul?" The answer is, nothing. It profits him nothing. As a wedding photographer, I am quite likely the least important person in a sea of important people on a day that is quite likely one of the most important days of many of those persons' lives. But having been a helplessly romantic, tiny fly on the wall for the past ten years, witnessing the love stories of couples on their wedding day, I get this unique perspective on fresh, shiny new beginnings. It's hard not to be subjective about the situation. It's hard not to fully root for every single couple, to yearn for years and years of joy and triumph. In hoping for these things, I've often thought about the traits that make me think, "Yes! This couple is winning and will win, and win and win." You know what the unequivocal common denominator is? It's the trait that allows even this almost stranger photographer to see that neither spouse will ever exploit the other's vulnerabilities. It's that fierce selfless promise to guard and protect the other. That if shame, pain or poverty ever had to befall the one, each would volunteer to take the hit that the other might be spared. It's the underlying drive to bring that person's sense of belonging and sense of safety and purpose and joy above their own, even if, and most importantly when, no one else but their spouse is aware. There are two kinds of commitment, while both commendable, one is superior. There is the commitment to stay married no matter what, which is good. But then there is the commitment to stay HAPPILY married, which takes a whole other paradigm shift of one's ego. In a society rife with self elevation, Brian entered his marriage as Rose first then Brian. Rose entered it as Brian first then Rose. And in doing so, both have ensured that each is always number one and that both will always be found and guarded by the other. The result? An unwavering promise to always find one another's soul, to never lose it, and in doing so, to gain so much more than this simple world can offer.