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Don’t make the mistake of thinking more is better in a conversation. 🚫Sharing more information that what’s needed doesn’t make you a better communicator. 💬 It doesn’t mean you’re delivering a stronger or more compelling message. 🗯
It could, however, mean you’re wasting time. ⏰
Learn to read the situation and answer what’s asked without providing background information, additional details or a lengthy story.
Words have power, context has more
There are some studies which show that only 7% of our communication is verbal, with 55% coming from our body language and 38% from our tone. Therefore, how we communicate creates a much larger impact on our audience than what we actually say in words.
My mother used to say to my brother and I: “If you don’t have anything nice to say, stay quiet”. But we would still glower and make gestures or faces at one another. There was still communication.
I have worked in different fields, all of them requiring an acute sense of communication. And I, like many others, still make mistakes at time. Guess what? We’re all human, we react to life events using the scripts and behaviours learnt from when we first opened our eyes. As children, we perceive communication non-verbally long before we are able to place context and meaning on the sounds we hear from people’s mouths. That’s why we ask children how they feel by showing them a scale of faces from sad/angry to happy/smiling.
It is possible to retrain your brain, so that there is congruence between your body, emotions and language (B-E-L) so that when you communicate the spoken words are aligned with the other 93%. That occurs when a person is truly authentic and comfortable with themselves, and in the context in which they are communicating.
A coach can empower you to work on re-aligning your B-E-L so that you have meaningful, deep and powerful conversations. You owe it to yourself, as all relationships stem from our ability to effectively communicate.
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