This is a magic memory wand. It’s for a young girl whose daddy died. 💜 She may use it to ask her mummy and other people who have known her father to tell stories and memories about him and to remind her of his never ending love for her. . . . #grief #continuousbond #childrenandgrief #keepingmemoriesalive #magicwand #funeral #funeralceremony #inclusivefunerals #londoncelebrant #funeralcelebrant #modernfunerals
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Wanted to share with you an article I wrote. Will be speaking at a seminar in April 14th about this same topic. I'll be hosting an one hour online class March 23rd at 10 a.m. on Understanding Grief. More info at katwellnesscoach.com #griefcoach #griefsupport #childrenandgrief #griefseminar
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{You are Their Legacy} • This is what I tell my children and what I remind my heart regularly. It doesn’t take away the yearning or the pain of the loss, but it is a courage booster. A sweet reminder that beautiful pieces of our loved one continue to live - and be experienced by others - through us. ♡ . . . #mondaykickoff #legacy #grief #ahopefueledlife #griefandloss #helivesthroughus #widow #movingforwardwithhope #wid#widowedlife #widowedmom #widowed #griefjourney #griefthriver #widowjourney #mondaymotivation #motivation #childrenandgrief
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It's Parenting Thursday- https://buff.ly/2UBhjsI⠀ On Today's Podcast I am talking about a subject near and dear to my heart . How to help your child grieve. I think this is one of the hardest things parents have to do and sometimes, as adults we forget that children feel lost profoundly. In today's episode, I will share tips I used to help my children understand and deal with their grief. The link is in my profile. ⠀ #childrenandgrief #wtyl #grief #love #loss #sad #healing #sadness #depression #mentalhealth #griefsupport #life #death #griefjourney #anxiety #family #art #grieving #griefandloss #pain #heartbreak #hope #selfcare #support #christmas #memories #poetry #sorrow #therapy
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#mschikeetruthmondays - Grief in children Children experience grief and I’ve believed that in my heart even before William lost his Thomas. The “grief bursts” are real and the older that William gets, a new level of awareness hits him. My sole job is to support him in every way I know how and make him feel safe and heard so he doesn’t feel alone. I can’t fix it for him, but I can sit next to him as he goes through each bursts. I remind him that his feelings are valid, that it is ok to be sad and to miss his brother. I don’t make excuses for his actions when he’s feeling the grief, I acknowledge it. Children go through grief, regardless of what age they are when they lost their loved one. I think it’s time to stop thinking that “children just don’t understand”, instead, let’s start thinking how can we be supportive and understanding of their needs when dealing with their grief. They are smart little beings, we shouldn’t underestimate their capacity to comprehend. My William makes me proud every single day. He’s very caring and loving to me and I to him. Our bond is stronger because of what we are going through and I can only hope we grow closer together. He makes me very lucky just being my son, my beautiful first born. I tell him everyday, if he can be anything, I want him to be kind. #truthmondays #childrenandgrief #childloss #superkuyawilliam #firstborn #mummyandson
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When the Sky Shares Your Grief • Some days are just rainy days. Hearts can’t hold it in anymore and tears flow. • Somehow even I too have bought into at times the societal belief that grief is linear and should follow some sort of preset time schedule. If I hadn't then I wouldn't be so surprised with the waves of grief that continue to crash over me. A common misconception with grief is that the first year is the most difficult and then things get better over time. So why almost 6 years out do I still have days that knock me off my feet with tears that seem like they’ll never end? • Grief and what one endures by grieving are not containable or definable to an experience or time frame. While keeping count of the days since a loved one’s death is heart wrenching, arguably so is loosing count of the days because so many have passed. Both are equally challenging and heartbreaking. • How people are affected by their loss and the time frame they experience things in is just as unique as the relationship they had with the person who died. This also must be remembered for children who are grieving. Just like adults, they too experience grief in their own, unique way complete with the “inconvenient” timing of emotions, triggers and all. • So when the heart becomes heavy and tears can no longer be contained, let them flow. Allow yourself to be inconvenienced by the cleansing and lightening that only tears can bring. • The best thing to do when it rains is to let it rain. | Henry Wadsworth Longfellow . . . #gri#griefoss #whatgrieflookslike #griefsucks #griefisnotlinear #childrenandgrief #letthetearsflow #grief #griefjourney #widowjourney #widowed #widowlife #widowsofinstagram #widowcoach #kidsgrievetoo #widowedmom #heartbreak #ahopefueledlife #gothroughit #griefwork
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Moments That Get Us Breathing Again • There are small, delicate moments scattered in each day. Moments that make life livable. Moments that remind you that you need to take a deep breath. That all your breathing and existing up to that point has been rapid, shallow, panicked, survival. • Since becoming a widow I have recognized that most of my days are spent {just barely} breathing. I’ve even considered a tattoo on my wrist to remind myself of the importance to “just breathe”! Breathing is sacred and is where our energy and life are stored. • This photograph was captured after hiking. I had looked up after a hurried day, one that the details don’t stand out. There were errands, arguing, obligations, just things you do but in the end what framed the day was this image before me. It caught my breath. I breathed in the majestic scene before me and out the blur of the day, of most days. • Blur mixed with grief, always grief, yielding shallow breathing. • >>> Read more @hopeforwidows or click through my LINK IN BIO . . . #grief #griefjourney #emotions #healingafterloss #hopeforwidows #griefandloss #grieflookslikethis #griefsucks #wid#widowshelpingwidows #lifeafteryou #childrenandgrief #griefishardwork #hopeinthehurt #widowsofinstagram #lifelessons #intentionalliving #griefsupport #widow #widowed #widowedmom #justbreathe #healinglookslikethis #youngwidow #ahopefueledlife #hopeforwidowsfoundation
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