Do you ever have ridiculous expectations that aren't met like every day but you still sit there with the expectation? Hi, yeah, me too! Oh my gosh GUYS! Like every day I just expect my house to be clean, the boys to sleep for a specific amount of time, to get a crap ton of work done while they are sleeping, to look like a babe, and to get an amazing nights sleep. Anyone else feel this way? ☘
Yeah, I hear ya.... Dillon literally tells me every time I have a breakdown (ie: every night) that I set myself up for failure because I have too many expectations for myself and for the boys. ☘
You think I would have listened to him, but no. It took a blog I read on Pinterest to rock my world and teach me that I HAVE TOO MANY EXPECTATIONS. Probs should have listened to him. 🤷♀️
So, how do we fix this? I don't want to just give up on my house, and my personal needs and wants. ☘
I've decided that it's all in your capacity to do things well. So if today it isn't going to get done, it's okay. I'm attempting to get in the habit of remembering all of the work I do as a mom and giving it credit. I changed 10+ diapers, fed 2 babies 8 times, carried 2 car seats simultaneously to the car and went grocery shopping with them alone. Normally I would see these things as no big deal, just a lame part of my day, not-as-important-as-the-dirty-bathroom kind of activities, but they are REAL and they ARE IMPORTANT! Give yourself credit for the mundane, regular tasks of the day. It's okay to have a less eventful day because it means you are taking care of yourself and you are taking care of your babies! And that is the best thing to be doing right now. ☘
Today I spent more time sitting with the boys laughing with them than I have in a while. I told anxiety that my house is not more important than my boys and we had a darling time. ☘
How do you keep from burning out of being a mom?