I’m sorry Allen, I am 100% guilty of breaking rule #11. “Don’t try to convert your friends unless they first seek your help.” I have been alcohol free for over 2 years, and my husband has had periods where he has stopped drinking for a while.
But he says he just still likes to drink, because he likes the taste and it's fun.
On the weekend he had a few beers and wines while we were camping.
When we got home I tried (casual like) explaining why I wish he would give up, and I feel like MAYBE I have gotten my point across.
I said that my concern was that alcohol is a carcinogen. He said everything is a carcinogen these days, for instance reheating plastic in the microwave.
I explained that alcohol is a level 1 carcinogen, like smoking and asbestos.
Considering the fact that we just paid THOUSANDS of dollars last week to have asbestos removed from our bedrooms at home, I thought I would use this example with him.
So I said that I understood that he enjoys a beer and that drinking a beer sometimes would not make him die.
But I said in the same way that we removed the asbestos to reduce our risk of asbestosis in the future, I feel that every beer he drinks increases his risk of issues down the track.
And that I worry that it could cause him to become ill or reduce his life expectancy.
And that I don’t want him to die even one day sooner than he needs to because I love him so much and our little family need him here with us because he is amazing.
He smiled. I think he understood. And then we had some ice cream and all was right with the world.
He is not ready to give up, but maybe in time he will come to the decision himself.
I feel like times are changing and that more people are seeing the light.
Are you guilty of trying to convert your friends and family to sobriety? How has that gone for you? Any tips for me!?
Curling up tonight with a good book, some good ol’ H2O, and the cutest puppy ever. #day1
Aw, #midlife, the stage of life where we *get* to let rules from our past fall away and live life on our terms. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
BUT, drinking rules are playing tricks on our minds. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
My #1 drinking rule: Don't drink Chardonnay or Champagne because that will lead to blackouts, lash-outs, and hangovers that last for days. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I used to say, "You *can* drink BUT *only* if you drink red wine." (I didn't like it as much and couldn't drink my weight in it like Chard)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I tried to trick myself into thinking that I really could drink but just not the drinks that I LOVED. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Any alcohol for someone who can't (or doesn't want to) have *only a couple of drinks* leads to more alcohol.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It wasn't about red or white it was about alcohol. I loved the taste, but I LOVED the way wine made me feel. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Numb. Zoned out. In my wine fantasy world. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I wasn't drinking for the taste; I was drinking for MORE numbness and wine fantasies that made me feel like everything in life was hunky-dory when it wasn't. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I say this with (tough) love, please don't kid yourself into thinking you can switch out a flavor of alcohol so you can moderate. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It's way too exhausting to follow rules of drinking.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Check-in with yourself and get honest. Self-awareness in the middle of life is crucial to stop over-thinking and over-drinking and start LIVING life on your terms.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Let’s congratulate Danielle on 30 Days Clean and motivate her to continue her journey is sobriety!! ❤️
I wasn't going to share a 30 day achievement post, because "meh, it's only 30 days", and then I decided that any achievement you're proud of is worth sharing. That being said, today marks one month alcohol-free!
I don't know if I'd say I've struggled with alcohol addiction, but I've definitely abused, misused, and over-consumed more times than I can remember. I used to turn to alcohol in times of stress, sadness, or anger because it would cloud my mind and make me forget about the world for a while; though it never did anything to solve my problems.
A month ago I decided to gather up all of the beer and liquor in the house and dump it all out. I deleted the Untappd app. from my phone. I bagged up all of my beer t-shirts, sweatshirts, stickers and signs, my bottle cap collection, etc. The bottle caps will be repurposed, the shirts will be turned into rags, the stickers and signs will be given away or trashed. All of this handwashing made the transition easier to face in my day-to-day, and while I do already miss the taste of many of my favorite beers and spirits; I don't miss the hangovers, the unnecessary expense, or the added stress that alcohol brought into my life.