Sigh. This. We went on a date last night and it was so good. We both told each other over breakfast this morning how much we loved our time together. We needed to talk, to have a real conversation without being interrupted, to hear hearts and talk through some family structures and have fun. I actually did my hair! 😅and laughed watching Jeff try all the desserts on the menu. He’s my best friend, and I’m so thankful we could sit across a table from one another and catch up.
Full disclosure: we went on a date a week before, before Jeff left for the weekend, and ended up fighting the whole time. Ugh. It was awful. I’ve never eaten chips and dip with such disgust and angst before. 😅 I think the waiter even knew because he brought our dessert with a candle in it, hoping to cheer us up. I’m sure a big part of it was spiritual warfare, but also our flesh and stress and pride. Marriage takes work. You have to stay in the game. Keep pursuing, keep being open, keep forgiving and humbling yourself and trying to step into their shoes. Keep marking out the time to be together, keep asking the questions, keep praying. I’m so thankful for grace, for forgiveness, for redeeming dates & for a man who faithfully loves me.
Also- not that I’m trying to plug it (well maybe I am a bit 😅) but our 5 day marriage challenge starts Friday and I really am hoping you’ll join us! Truly, I mean it when I say I’m excited to do it with you! Adjusting to 3 kids & having a baby, I really am having to work hard to pursue Jeff and see him. So I’m excited to do the challenge- to spend some focused time on us. Hope you’ll join us! Link in profile. 💕
Thankful for mornings like today’s where we got to have a special Valentine’s Date at Starbucks where we ate goodies, read library books, played red light green light and got in some good tickles and laughs. And beyond grateful for my mom and her presence and help this weekend while Jeff’s been away. I’m taking lots of notes for one day when I’m (hopefully!) a grandma. So very thankful for her!
The Lord woke me up early this morning to pray for Jeff and the IF team and all those listening in today. I’m so proud of Jeff- for how he faithfully steps into what God calls him to, for being brave and fierce and taking risks to make Him known. I love how he’s wired to think deeply and study truth and teach it in a way that brings so much understanding to so many. I’m learning that we’re a team, on mission together, whether I’m there with him or at home with my babes. There’s power in prayer and strength in support. We’re both serving the kingdom even if our roles look different.
For all the marrieds today: you’re both needed, both serving, both immensely loved and SEEN by God.
For all the singles longing to be married today: Look for someone who you can be on mission with, whose going in the same direction as you, who makes you love Jesus more and where you guys are better together than apart.
For all: we’re the church. Different roles, different gifts, but all needed and gifted and called. Let’s fight feelings of FOMO, of inadequacy, of fear and looking over at someone else and wishing that was us. God is pouring out His kindness on us each day, inviting us on his mission, welcoming us as a close friend longing to get away with us in the still, small moments and to tell us of his mysteries and love. We’re all a team. Let’s be the best team we can be.
Throwing it back to our engagement photos today 💙 If you had told me 7 years ago how much life was gonna happen, how much we’d change and how much stronger our marriage would be back then I don’t think I would have believed it. And I never could have imagined how refining marriage is nor how beautiful and deep our love would be. Marriage is hard work (can I get an amen?!), but when we let the Lord lead, are sensitive to the Spirit, depend on one another and serve each other it sure is worth it. I don’t know what I’d do without this man. He has taught me so much about grace and courage and faithfulness and surrender. I’m so thankful I get to be on his team and be on mission together (even if I want to jump ship sometimes! 😅). He has shown me the Father’s deep, unwavering love.
Some seasons it’s harder to pursue one another and choose each other. With three little ones and work, some days go by and I think “wait, I didn’t even get to connect with my best friend.” So Jeff & I put together a 5 day challenge that focuses on our marriages. 5 days to pour into our marriages, to put a little more energy there and pursue each other. Each day we’ll send you a video to your inbox of that days challenge like creating a mission statement, setting rhythms, dating, finding mentorship. Plus we have a private Facebook group. I’m so excited to do the challenge alongside y’all, to spend a week pursuing our marriage in a season that needs a little refreshing. So will you join us?! Will you set aside a week to build up your marriage in a simple, easy way? Click on the link in my profile to join! Feb 15-19th. 💙
Got to celebrate my sweet friend’s birthday last week with a little painting party 💕
I often hesitate to post pictures of my friends because honestly I never want to make anyone feel left out (trying to be sensitive but also working through that in my heart 😊) and because most of the time I forget to take pictures because I’m so in the moment! But I want to be better at it because these friendships are gifts from the Lord and these moments are so sweet and needed.
Having close friends, or a close friend, can be hard to find after college or as a young mom. Sometimes it can feel like dating! 😅 When we moved to Maui, I walked through a season of deep loneliness. The kind where it almost feels palpable. Like you could suffocate from it. I spent so many mornings asking God for a friend, for courage to pursue someone, and asking Him to fill up all my lonelies. He satisfied my heart, met me in my need and slowly brought friends into my life. It took a few years to really feel secure in my community, and to find friends who I could do life with- who I could be known by and I could know. To feel loved just as me.
One of the friends he blessed me with is this sweet sister here. She is such an answer to prayer. Throughout the week we’ll text each other with encouragement and scripture and send voice notes praying over each other. The Lord has spoken through her so many times and she has truly walked through dark valleys with me, being full of empathy & having hope and faith when I haven’t.
We were made for friendship and all of us long for deep, meaningful friendships that encourage and build up. I got to talk about that very topic with one of my favorite women @sally.clarkson on her podcast today.
If you are longing for a close friend today, have hope. God loves to answer those prayers and He will. I can testify to it in so many seasons of my life!
And if you have a close friend who is a true gift to you, tag her in the comments below. 💕
I know it seems a little simple, but have you ever spent time at Jesus’ feet simply asking Him who you are? Have you talked to him about it? Jeff and I have been living in these questions the last year or two and we tried to chat about it a little on this week’s podcast. Where the Lord has taken me on this journey and how He so sweetly wants to give us a new name, a new word, or speak tenderly to us about who we are in Him ☺️ what did you think about this week’s podcast? Also, for those listening on audio and who didn’t know, Lucy made a little guest appearance this week 🤗
Building with dad 💙 Pretty much their favorite thing!