It's 10 years since two of my friends have passed away, one was of cardiac arrest, and the other because of murder. They were both in their early and mid-twenties. The one that taught me the most was the friend I lost due to murder. He was murdered by someone of different skin color and "race". Now I had two ways to respond to this: • I blame ANYONE who shared the same skin color and CHOOSE to become racist. • I blame ONLY the one male who did it. The First choice is one many make on the daily or they are taught growing up to make, and it the VERY WRONG ONE to make. The others is the mature, logical, and ethical one to make. I choose not to become racist as I knew I would then be part of the problem, and not the solution. You see the thing is there is no "races", there is only one race, and that's the HUMAN RACE. Race was designed for control and division, and we need to further disallow this. Race shouldn't determine ones success, respect, or future. No. Character should be the only measuring stick for that. However, when my friend was murdered by someone of different skin color I could have (based on what society considers normalcy now) chosen to hate anyone sharing the same skin color. Sadly, many would have supported me in this as they would feel I had "rights" to feel This way. No. No one has the right to paint everyone with one paint brush. Why should millions of others be hated because of ONE person's terrible act or choice? It makes zero sense. Racism is a CHOICE and it is a TAUGHT BEHAVIOR. That's it's. It's not right. It's not normal. It's not ethical. It's not moral. It's 100% wrong. It's a choice that will truly showcase your character at a negative level, and one that deserves a red flag on it. Racism needs to stop, but it only will when we acknowledge us a ONE RACE. Eliminate the term RACE and you elminiate half of RACISM. As long as we keep dividing us by RACE, we will always have racism. We are the only cure to the problem we have created.
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This really grinds my gears!!! Enough with demanding change to your life if you are unable to commit to the change you want. You're self-sabotaging your life and your growth with this entitled mindset.
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Pain and pleasure association. The importance to understanding where you associate PAIN and PLEASURE and how it affects your everyday choices.
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Set the goals for your youths that you can lead by example with! No one can find value from a hypocrite. You MUST be able to set the example. It is absolutely crucial to helping others. I don't set goals for my kids that I don't also follow. We succeed as a family. Set goals with your kids. If you want to lose weight, make it a family thing. I've seen it in the past, where parents were posting content of them eating healthy, but then posted a photo of their kids drinking pop and eating chocolate bars and chips. Don't expect your children to do what you yourself won't or wouldn't do. Set them as a family. Commit to them as a family. Set those family goals.
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My goal as a coach is to assist you in finding the internal powers to help you become the FIRST OF YOU. That's the representation of the 1st place awards in my logo. FIRST OF YOU, you'll always be 1st place in your mind! The power you are searching for lies right within you, and my intent is to help you unlock it. And it begins with 3 superpowers: •Power of Self-Awareness •Power of Adaptation •Power of being self-taught. Once you unlock all these powers and combine them for everyday focus, you are on the right path for success AND fulfillment. I'm here to help you. I hope you find inspiration, motivation, and value in my content and my story. Feel free to DM me if you have any questions or need any support. I'm also good friends with some employees from Kids Help Phone and will help connect you with them if you need immediate assistance. Let's award you with becoming the FIRST OF YOU. You deserve it.
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Once you understand where your self power stems from, you'll be amazed as it's something society is not supportive of. Self-awareness. The ability to understand your strengths and weaknesses, your passions, your characteristics, your personality, your likes and dislikes, once you understand how powerful it is to truly be aware of yourself, and to never try to be someone else, you're set! We all have weaknesses and strengths, we are part of a race that has flaws, thus, this mentality of everyone is perfect is bogus. The human race itself is full of flaws. No one is perfect. Nothing is perfect. The key to self-awareness is understanding WHY you are unique, and WHY that gives you an advantage. While majority of everyone else is focused on being someone else, you can truly become the first of you. I always coach to focus on your strengths and partner up with people who are strong with your weaknesses. This allows you to not only be good with your strengths, but to focus all the time on them to become great at them. And you have those to help you with your weaknesses. For example, one if my weaknesses is graphic design. Therefore, I find those close to me who are strong at graphic design, and I use their talent to help me. This way it allows me more time to focus on being great at my strengths. Self-awareness is a power that's rarely ever preached about. As our society is so focused on weaknesses, as opposed to helping each other focus on being great at our strengths. Always bet on your strengths. Be honest with yourself, don't try to be fake to impress others as in the long run you'll lose. Be real with who you are. Bet on your strengths. Garner help from those who's strengths are your weakness. Unlock the power of self-awareness and be amazed with how being the first of you leads to tremendous success and fulfillment.
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The photo in the right was when I was between 320 and 340lbs. I couldn't tie my shows without a struggle, I could barely walk without being out of breathe. It was to the point where I wasn't sleeping, and the problem was I associating pain to working out and pleasure to eating unhealthy. Then came the time where I had my eyes open, and this is what happens to people before they make a life changing choice. I became miserable and irritable. I was not pleasant to be around at all. I realized that I needed to make a change and fast as I knew I was increasing my chances for heart disease, diabetes, and other health issues. My weight was also affecting my shoulder, neck, and back injuries. I had enough. This was when I placed so much emotion and intensity on converting my pain for working out to it now being a pleasure. This was when I was able to lose all the weight. I learned how crucial it is to be aware to what we associate pain and pleasure to. As long as I associated pain to working out I never would have made a change. I had to focus intensely and become obsessed with finding pleasure in working out. I worked out so much that some questioned if it was healthy or not. I was literally obsessed with working out. This was because I associated so much energy, passion, and pleasure to working out. Every pound I lost I became more and more focused on losing more. I had my goal weight and I hit it under 9 months! I was able to lose over 90lbs in 9 months!!! You'll garner amazing results when you associate pleasure to what you currently see as painful! It all begins with the mindset and association. It's crucial to associate your solution to PLEASURE and the problem to PAIN. You'll naturally avoid the pain and naturally focus on the pleasure. Make the mindshift today!! Make it right NOW! Pain to the problem and Pleasure to the solution, and be amazed with the results and fulfillment!!
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If you ever have ANYONE tell you to take something until you make it, do the exact opposite. Faking it is a great chance to never make it. Think about it, let's say you fake something for so long and then comes the time where you need to prove you know it, what's likely to happen? You'll likely freeze. You'll likely be called out. You'll lose. The fact of the matter is that true success and fulfillment comes from BEING REAL and focusing on your strengths. We live in a society where having a weakness is not appropriate, and if you focus only on your strengths you're called obsessed and delusional. This is why I coach families and individuals that external voices can limit you if you listen to all of them. Your internal voice is MOST IMPORTANT. If you honestly listen to the external voice that gives you the advice to fake it, look at their life. Are they leading the life you want? Are they fulfilled and successful? Often when someone gives you that advice they have not pursued their dreams, and it's because they haven't lived their dreams they feel the best way to get close is to fake it. Negative. Learn it, study it, research it, and then work very hard until you make it! That's the advice from a winner. It's genuine. It's truth. There is NO talk about being fake, Why? Because fake never lasts forever, soon enough the real always comes out. Then you lose. Maybe the fake it until you make it advice is good for the short term, yet, no one who says it thinks about the long-term. The longer you remain fake, the sooner you'll be called out. You can't be fake until you make it, because you never will. But, there are times where people DO make it? The question is, do they for the long-term? Nope. It's all short term. You want fulfillment and success to be long-term. Faking anything leads to nothing.
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Opinions don't change the world, it is conviction (strong beliefs combined with action to do something about it) that changes the world. Many share opinions, however, very few actually do something with their beliefs. Emma Gonzalez is a youth who is showing genuine conviction with her beliefs. I am very proud of her, and I support her mission wholeheartedly. Youths have voices, and truth be told they at times show more passion, empowerment, and ambition than adults. Emma, thank you for sharing your voice, thousands of youths will join you in speaking up, and I support them all as well. Youths are meant to be seen AND heard, especially when they have human rights just as you, I, and other adults. Youths cannot be silenced any longer when they are victims as well. Speak up, be heard, be understood. April 20th, 2018 is a day where youths are speaking online about walking out of school until something is done. I support this 100%, these youths are showing how effective strong convictions are with their genuine intent. You have rights, and you have the right to have reasonable grounds to believe your life is at risk. I support you all. 100%.
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I have to spend time coaching youths and adults on this belief, and I help them increase their emotions towards it to make it a conviction for them. It's 100% truth! You HAVE to follow your MAP. We all have our own MAP to follow, and the key is to remain vigilant on following your own MAP, otherwise you'll end up lost in someone else's success. Set your own goals. Be creative. Be unrealistic. Be honest with them. Follow that motivation, ambition, and passion wholeheartedly. Your life is worth following your own MAP. Too many are investing their time in helping others follow their MAP, all while ignoring their own, and they tolerate it. The key is to not tolerate it. When you punch out of the job you hate, punch into your dreams!! This life is YOURS and you need to hold yourself accountable for the lack of effort toward your dreams. You can't blame the world for not following your MAP...you're the only one who can decide to follow it or abandon it. The key is always to follow your MAP.
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My son @official_jacob_millard and I have started a new web series known as, "Father/Son Coaching". This new project strives to add value to youths and families around the world. You get to see how it is I coach my son in regards to self-development. I share tactics, guidelines, advice, and ways to focus on self-development for all ages. You can find these episodes in their entirety on my Facebook Page, and as well as my personal YouTube channel. Thank you for all the support, we hope you find value in these episodes. This was episode 2, where we speak about waking up a winner and good/bad habits.
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Hahaha!! Every year we do this and he always chooses the pressure point. Haha. He always chooses the one behind the ear (mandibular angle). Lol.
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Small clip from a new Facebook series I've started with my son @official_jacob_millard "Father/Son Coaching". We do a new episode Monday to Friday! I'll share some clips from every episode and post them here as well. This clip is about "Internal Power Words" and "External Negative Words".
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What is Love? There are many different version of a definition for it. However, the truth is that it is real. You'll know when it is legitimate and you'll know when it is just lust. Love is emotion. Love is action. Love is present. Love is unconditional. Love is consistent. Love is sacrifice. And, love is feared. So many feel they should fear Love, and I completely understand why they feel this way. Love can hurt. But, let me rephrase this for you, as love doesn't hurt, love cures the pain. It's not love that has hurt you, it is someone who has hurt you. You've associated pain to Love due to past experiences, and that's normal. However, you deserve to fall in love again. To be honest, life is meant to create and fall in love daily. Love truly is a part of our lives, we love to Love and to be in love. We love love. We convince ourselves to fear Love, however, we can't fear Love. We just can't ignore it. When it is real, it is very real. I felt for many years I would never fall in love again, I feared falling in love. Therefore, for many years I put that wall up, and I found it made me even more depressed. Why? Because love is human nature, and we need it like we need air. After a year I finally took that wall down and allowed myself to fall in Love, and I am so happy I did. I fell in love with @patriciadiazclaudia and it was a huge moment for me, as she was my high school crush. If I had feared love any longer I would not have been able to be in love with the love of my life. Love is real when it is real. You'll know. And you'll feel amazing. You can't ignore Love, as when you do it hurts you even more. The human race thrives on Love, and my life became so much better when I opened myself up to Love again. I love you Claudia. I love you my son, @official_jacob_millard and my babygirl @official_julianna_diaz Let love in. You deserve love. Don't fear Love. You deserve to Love again. Happy Valentine's Day everyone. Let love in. Show love. Say "I love you" more often. Love will help you win, always.
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The two superpowers that will help you towards tremendous growth, fulfillment, and success: •The Power of Adaptation •The Power of Self-Teaching The power of adaptation is garnered through awareness of the value and the worth of your life, and with this awareness you'll find the power to adapt and overcome. Adaptation is key to a successful and fulfilled life as you disallow yourself to develop what's called, "learned helplessness." Learned helplessness is when you fail once and you develop a mindset overtime where you are a consistent failure, and you feel youll never succeed at anything, thus, you are in a consistent negative mindset that disallows you growth and success. The power of self-teaching is the ability to understand you are in control of garnering consistent knowledge daily. You understand the ability to learn is one that doesn't stop, and you'll invest time in garnering knowledge often. You are aware of the tremendous opportunity you have with access to knowledge. You unlock this power when you invest time in knowledge when you're done school and working. The ability to self-teach is one that will guide you towards success and fulfillment, and the level of success is one you'd never imagine. The goal is to grow, and this goal is accomplished with the super power of self-teaching. Unlock these powers. Understand these powers. Use these powers daily. Adapt to overcome. Self-teach to grow. The goal is to grow DAILY, and these two super powers will help you tremendously. #coachdmboddy #trainharderthanyoudream
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Why are you so intense when it comes to believing in your success? I understand that with a strong intensity towards my beliefs, that I am helping my nervous system experience something that is real, but hasn't even happened yet. Have you ever heard of the "four minute mile"? For many years no one believed to ever run the mile in under 4 minutes, and I mean thousands of years. This was until a man named Roger Bannister ran the mile under 4 minutes! Mr. Bannister not only relied on physical training, he also rehearsed the run over and over in his mind, he did this so much he created vivid references that allowed his nervous system to produce results! As a result of his accomplishment the following year 37 runners also ran the mile in under 4 minutes, and a year after that over 300 people ran the mile under 4 minutes! I understand the power behind having a tremendous amount of intensity with my beliefs of success and accomplishments. I understand just as Roger Bannister did. WHEN we believe in ourselves with tremendous emotion attached we truly can accomplish so much! With so much repeated intensity towards our beliefs our nervous system can respond and bring on amazing results. Therefore, when I set a goal I ensure to attach a tremendous amount of intensity repeatedly on BELIEVING I can accomplish.....and I know soon enough I will. #coachdmboddy #trainharderthanyoudream
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A decision is when you make a commitment towards something. When you sit down and think or tell someone, "I am going to do, or I'm going to start ----" that is not a decision. That is only a thought or an idea you have mentioned. It becomes a decision as soon as you commit to action. Too many are just stating ideas and passing them off as decisions. Until there is commitment it is NOT a decision. Here are the steps to making a committed decision: • Decide what you want to do, change, begin, etc and be very clear about it. • Write down what you need to do to get it done. • Make a plan to get all the tasks and goals accomplished. • Organize the plans in priority order. • Commit to plans DAILY. The process above is what a decision entails. It's not a thought. It's not an idea. It's not something you just speak of, it's something you commit to. Of its to lose weight, follow the process above and as soon as you COMMIT it becomes a decision. Same if it's to start a brand or business, exercise more, eat healthier, etc. It's time people make more decisions and less ideas. Ideas are useless without making a decision to begin.
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https://vimeo.com/246355585 Yes!!! The trailer is out for the feature film I appeared in 3x! It was such an amazing time filming this movie with the cast and crew. It was also the first time I was on set with explosions, which was a wicked experience! Global Meltdown. I can't wait to watch the movie!
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Thanks to my son @official_jacob_millard for yet another great read to add to my collection! My goal is to build a library within my home. Years ago my focus was in growing my blu ray collection, which is now at 242 blu rays. However, now that I've shifted my mindset to see PLEASURE in reading, it's now my favorite way to consume knowledge. When you become so focused on self-development it can become VERY addicting, my focus is now simple. I want to invest as much time as I can DAILY towards growth. The goal is to grow and help others grow with me. And I love how my family understands how much this means to me, and they choose to support me 100%. The goal is to grow, and the goal is one that should be accomplished daily.
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We tend to focus on activity that allows us to experience instant pleasure. It's hard to lose weight as it takes time to see the results, however, that chocolate bar or those pieces of pizza offer instant pleasure. The pleasure we truly want is often on the other side of pain, as it's a process to garner the pleasure you want. The problem I've noticed with many is the pleasure they want isn't able to be reached as they avoid the pain needed to overcome. The key is to understand the pain will only be temporary and the pleasure will be worth it. Those 3 weeks it takes for you to notice results from eating well and working out will be difficult, however, the pleasure you'll garner when you will the results will allow you to place working out as pleasurable and no longer painful. You need to reverse your thinking and it begins when you write down the actions you need to do NOW. Then you need to answer why you haven't taken any action. Then write down ALL the pleasure you had indulging these negative choices. Then you need to write down what you're risking if you don't change the behavior. Lastly, you then write down ALL the pleasure you'll garner from this changed behavior. As long as you associate pain to the journey you won't take it. As soon as you associate pleasure to the journey, and all the pain on what you DON'T want, is when you'll be able to garner the changes you NEED. It all begins with understanding your pain and pleasure, and why you have pain associated with what you need to change. As soon as you understand the importance to pain and pleasure you'll be able to associate them differently and unlock the power behind accomplishing your greatest goals!!!
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We make EVERY decision based on PAIN and PLEASURE. I explain how important it is to focus on pleasure to be more successful and to not focus on pain.
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You ever wonder why you can't commit the diet? Why you can't commit to the gym or to going for that jog? Or, why you can't sit down and actually begin writing your book? Or approaching someone you have feelings for? The reason many can't commit to something really want is due to them focusing on the pain of the journey, or the fear of pain of being rejected. They associate the success to pain as they aren't able to look past being hurt. Their fear of pain disallows them ability to garner pleasure from the success. It's easier to make an excuse to escape the Pain as opposed to make a reason to pursue the journey and find the pleasure. The very moment YOU DECIDE that the pleasure is worth more than the Pain is when you'll commit 100%. When does this happen? When you finally experience too much pain you'll make the choice to commit to the journey towards the pleasure. Maybe you had enough with heavy breathing tying your shoes, or that one outfit does not fit as well as you wanted. Something happens that makes you realize you're done with the Pain, and it's time for a change! The key is to remember that you can't change a behavior until you focus on WHAT CAUSED the behavior. We operate on pain and pleasure. Literally every decision we make comes from either pain or pleasure. We don't react to something intellectually, we react with pain or pleasure. That's why if your goal is to lose weight you still reach for the cake. You find pleasure in eating the cake, you haven't experienced enough pain to choose to overcome. The key is understanding that as soon as you see less pain in the journey you'll arrive to the pleasure. The moment you realize the Pain of working out is worth overcoming to get the pleasure of losing weight. Your focus needs to be on overcoming the pain of the journey to garner the destination of pleasure. You can't expect results when you fear the journey that gets you there. You'll stop reaching for the cake when you find pleasure in losing weight and pain in gaining it. You need to reverse your thinking to overcome. Find pleasure in overcoming and pain in losing. You work on this change with understanding the cause of your pain and pleasure.
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With every fictional and factual story about heroes, there is one thing that's connected with them....they overcame their own struggles, they overcame their fears, and they overcame adversity to become their own hero. Before YOU can become a source of inspiration for others, you need to become a source to yourself. Before you can begin to help people, you need to begin to help yourself. I wasn't able to start coaching youths and create @the_bu_heroes_community until I was able to be my own hero. Then I was able to induct and recognize BUHeroes around the world. Whatever it is you want to do for society you need to begin within yourself. We are able to become sources of inspiration to one another, however, we need to become the source to ourselves first. Our achievements and success is what will inspire others around us. We can all overcome and we can all inspire one another. Become your own hero. Become your own source of inspiration. And be amazed with how you inspire others.
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This was the last time I was in the ring taking bumps for fun. The adrenaline and the thrill of taking bumps will never leave me. Having to retire fulltime training in 2006 due to being hit in the head with a shovel 3x when I was robbed, to this day still bothers me. It's something I am forever going to have to deal with. I suffered 3 of my 15 concussions in the ring, and a serious neck injury when I was 19 years old. I began training with 11 concussions and shoulder issues, however, I knew I'd regret never trying as opposed to having to walk away due to injury. I was willing to put my life on the line to chase this passion I had ever since I was 4 years old. That's the thing with passion, when it's genuine it pulls you in nonstop. Wrestling will always pull me in, and I would love to do a wrestling tour where I speak to wrestlers and promotions about concussions and how they need to be treated very seriously. I would love to speak at wrestling conventions as well..thus, I have written these down as goals for 2018! 3 concussions in 2 years of training, and I didn't take them serious enough, and it's a serious regret of mine. I don't want any other athlete to lose like I did. I'll be reaching out to wrestling promotions and conventions over the next few days to schedule times to speak to their management. The safety of the wrestlers is my main concern and I want to do my part in ensuring they understand the worth of that health as well.
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You can't beg for it. You can't whine for it. You can't demand it. You can only earn it. And you do so through supporting yourself first and chasing your passion. Once you garner the results of your daily commitment, you'll notice more support come to you. Why? People are enticed by results and passion. It inspires them. People support where they see value, and they see value in someone who works hard and overcomes, they see value in people who commit and garner results. Your results will inspire people, and as a result, they will support you. The key is to understand support is like respect, it can never be demanded, it can only be earned.
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I was asked how I handle people who believe mental health illness isn't real. And the answer is simple, I don't. I simply avoid discussion with them, and the reason is simple, they've already accepted their belief, and I don't see any value in trying to convince them otherwise, as it's obvious they're already choosing to neglect the seriousness of the topic. It's 2018, and we have a tremendous amount of access to knowledge and information. We can literally research any topic and find information in regards to it. Or we can even read the blogs of individuals who are experienced with a topic to garner knowledge from their experiences. However, the problem is majority of people tend to choose arrogance over education. I know firsthand of the reality with mental health illness and brain damage. I personally understand how it feels to have people accuse you of being weak and making it up. Due to experience I also understand why it's a waste of time to try and change skeptics minds. I choose to focus on supporting those who are going through depression, suicidal thoughts, ADD/ADHD, and more. I will never understand how anyone can tell someone else what they're battling isn't real. The amount of arrogance and lack of compassion from people is sickening. My advice to anyone who's battling mental health, focus on those who ARE supporting you. Those who don't deserve zero energy or time from you. They've already accepted to be arrogant as opposed to compassionate. You'll only invite stress and drama into your mind, and you don't need any of it. Focus on those who are going through what you are, or those who have been through it. You'll only find support from those who are compassionate. And if someone wants to discredit your experiences, and try to tell you what you're battling isn't real, they don't deserve your time or energy. Due to their disrespect and ignorance, they don't deserve an opportunity to speak to you any further. Block and move on. If they're not adding value or support, they don't need to be given your time and attention. I'm here to help you. I'm here to listen. I'm here to share HOW I overcame. I'm here to share what I've went through. I'm here.
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You MUST make your journey focused 100% on being the FIRST OF YOU.
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It's an issue I encounter almost 90% of the time I am coaching others, they feel they can only garner happ8ness from external sources. Sources such as relationships and materials. S9mw even mention they feel they only garner happiness from recreational drugs and alcohol use. The first thing I strive to coach them is how happiness is a mindset we exit and enter, and it can be a transition more often for people. I tell that you enter the happiness mindset when you're by the ones you love, your friends, your favorite music, you enter the happiness mindset when you're around people and experiences that increase your dopamine. You exit the happiness mindset when you remove yourself from the people and environments that you feel uncomfortable in, no passion or interest for, etc. We need to understand that if you're relying on external sources to be happy, you will be disappointed. You need to focus on those moments and people that allow to enter and remain in the happiness mindset. Daily in our society we have millions who enter and then exit the happiness mindset for their job, school, broken relationships, and more. This is why majority of heart attacks are reported to happen between 8 and 9am on Monday mornings. We are in a society where people are spending more time unhappy than they are happy, and they are unaware of how to enter and remain in the happiness mindset. •Change your environment. This NEEDS to be the first step. You can't expect a change when you remain in the same environment. •Use the "1 replaced by 2" tactic. For every negative thought or experience replace it with 2 positive thoughts. •Increse your commitment to exercise and reading more. This is crucial. •Spend time with those who are passionate, ambitious, and driven. Your top 5 people you associate with influence you tremendously. •Increase your water intake and focus on healthier eating habits. •Gratitude is the best attitude. Be thankful more, complain less. These are tips that are only effective when used DAILY and committed to STRONGLY. You need to know happiness is OUR choice 100% and we influence it with our diets, thoughts, and choices DAILY.
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Maybe it is not a bad day, but a day that is not going your way. I have noticed when many say they are having a bad day it is due to ONE moment not going their way, and this can be something as minor as a stubbed toe. I call this the, "stubbed toe issue". When you wake up and exit your bed and you begin to stretch, and you take that step and stub your toe on the bed frame or the wall, and that pain is instantaneous, you either have two ways to respond: 1) You allow this temporary pain ruin your WHOLE day, all because it was unexpected and not planned. 2) Deal with the pain and move on. The problem is many tend to choose #1, and the issue is they allow their whole day to be ruined due to a temporary setback or unexpected event. The reality is these events happen, and they can happen more than once a day, therefore, just imagine for a minute you allow ALL or just ONE of these events be how your mood is the entire day. Is this stubbed toe really worth throwing a whole day away to be negative, or is it more beneficial to just adapt and overcome? You see, this is the key here to a happiness mindset, you need to adapt and overcome. The stubbed toes ARE going to happen, and you need to disallow them to sway you from your goal. Shake it off, scream into the pillow, bite your fist, bite your tongue, do whatever you need to do to overcome this stubbed toe, it is a matter of staying in the positive mindset (solution focused). Your life is way too valuable to allow a stubbed toe to ruin it. Adapt---->Overcome---->Repeat (solution focused/positive mindset)
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Is it time, Money, or health that's the greatest wealth? I answer.
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My family history means everything to me, I do not see my name as only a part of me, it is a part of my family. My goal is to make sure I carry on the BODDY name in a way that is positive. I am forever grateful for my ancestors and what they overcome. Your name means so much, and you need to make sure you honor it and your current and past family, and of course your future family members. Your names history matters, and so does how you contribute to it.
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https://medium.com/@davemboddy/you-become-successful-when-you-idolize-yourself-not-someone-else-e83dccbe8df1 **DIRECT LINK IN BIO** "You become successful when you idolize yourself, not someone else." I speak about how becoming your own idol leads you to success, and how to use sources of inspiration to benefit YOUR life. #coachdmboddy #trainharderthanyoudream
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The best gift a parent can give their child is their presence. Be there and help them succeed. Be present when they tell you their goals and dreams, and be there to help them achieve them. Become their main supporter next to themselves. - Coach Dave Matthew Boddy
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Thank you for all the support! I appreciate each and everyone of you, and I promise to never waste your support
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For years I was a very judgemental person, and I accept all accountability for lost friends and relationships due to this. Due to how low my self-esteem and confidence was, I felt it was logical to try and belittle others to raise me up. It wasn't until I was discharged from brain injury rehab where I learned the only way to raise yourself up is to ensure you invest all your time into positivity. Judging others is a form of negativity, and it's taking time away from YOU building yourself up. You don't understand how arrogant you look when judging others. It was a lesson I am glad I learned as I was heading into a serious downward spiral. The more I judged the more I fell deeper. Judging others brought me no benefit whatsoever. I wasted so much of my time and energy focusing on how I can judge someone else. I tried to tear them down to lift me up, and then I learned how can I be comfortable knowing I've hurt others to raise myself up? Am I really raising myself up or am I affecting my credibility and legacy? True. I was destroying my legacy and I was making a reputation of being someone you couldn't trust or be around with. Who wants to be around someone who just judges others all the time? It's very negative. Avoid those who do. They're toxic and their negativity will drain you. Be around those who focus on inspiring and helping others up. Be around those who are passionate and too focused on their goals for drama. Judgement of others is a clear indicator of someone with insecurity or arrogance. Avoid them. I understand why I destroyed friendships and relationships. I wouldn't want to be around someone who was like me, thus, I don't blame them leaving me. I am glad they did as they deserved better. The key is to remember judging others showcases arrogance, and it's a very negative trait. Avoid it!! Inspire people. Empower them. Accept them. Most of all don't be a hypocrite. You know you have the right lead a life you wish, and so do they. Those who are very judgmental are likely judging you behind your back as well. People feel warranted and entitled to judging others, thus, showing their true arrogance and hypocritical mindset. Avoid them.
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Thank you so much @wreckitralph318 I truly appreciate you! I am very proud of who you are, you should be too!
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I'm happy to announce that I will be appearing in the Canadian national Magazine, "I'm Here With Magazine". Release date will be announced soon for all Chapters store locations!!!
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"Is your goal to change people as a coach?" I'm going to address this question as I've been asked it numerous times the last few weeks.
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Thank you so much Jackie!!! You and @riajvde mean the world to me! I'll always be here to support you both.
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https://medium.com/@davemboddy/youre-obsessed-crazy-and-delusional-a66dcae84bbc NEW ARTICLE! *LINK IS IN BIO* "You're OBSESSED, CRAZY, and DELUSIONAL!!" I write about how these three labels many of us garner is EXACTLY what is needed to be successful and fulfilled. #coachdmboddy #trainharderthanyoudream ----------- Please feel free to share if you found value.
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BUHero @kanomullen is truly an amazing youth who has so much genuine charisma and compassion about him. I am so honored to be friends with him and his mother, Florence. His mother is also a BUHeroes Community Ambassador! Not only are they part of my family, they are part of @the_bu_heroes_community family. The future is bright for Kano as he has a strong passion for entertainment. Kano is also the host for BUHeroes LIVE Hour, and I am so glad he accepted the role as he does such an amazing job! Thanks for the friendship and the trust Florence and Kano!!! I appreciate you both so much.
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What can I say about BUHero @angelbonline and her mother @christinep.berry well, I can start off saying that ever since day one they've been great friends of mine. I was so excited to induct Angel as a BUHero as she truly is the epitome of someone who's focused and determined. Angel has such a bright future ahead of her because she is loyal to being the first of her. Christine is someone I value tremendously as a friend, I consider Angel and Christine family. They are a huge part of @the_bu_heroes_community family as well. Thank you so much for the friendship and all the support. You both trust me so much, and I truly value that. You're my besties!!
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After spending several months in brain injury rehab I've learned some very beneficial information, and I feel it's beneficial I share it with all of you. "Party and drink while you're young!" This is a very popular belief and statement many have towards our youths in regards to partying and drinking. However, what they fail to realize is that the human brain develops until you're 25 years old! This means that while you're drinking at 18, 19, or 21 you are actually affecting your brain during it's development. Not cool. Did you know your brain is 75-80% water? This is why it is absolutely crucial you drink water as soon as you wake up to offer a kick start to your organs. 3 glasses of cold water is very effective in the morning, more effective than coffee! You don't NEED coffee in the AM, you WANT IT. You actually NEED water. Start consuming more water in the morning and throughout the day to make sure your brain garners what it truly needs. The fact of the matter is our society has accepted alcohol as a normalcy for social gatherings, and drinking is fine when it is done responsibly. The problem is due to peer pressure, stress, depression, etc people tend to drink more than they should. Excessive alcohol is NEVER the answer to any problem, unless you want more problems. It's time the brain garners the respect and attention it deserves. Respect your brain and your body, learn as much as you can about it. Learn from my mistake. 15 concussions and a permanent brain damage diagnosis in 2011. I placed my health second for over 12 years, and I regret it tremendously. There's a reason I'm a mental health advocate and an advocate for brain safety. It's a serious topic and one many need more information on. Treat your brain and body even better than you do your materials.
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Seeing my mother again after not seeing or speaking to her for over 14 years was both emotional and exciting. What made it even more special was meeting my two other sisters for the first time ever. I remember when they knocked on the front door my Aunt Teresa was there with me and she had to make sure I was OK to open the door. I remember when I opened the door and I saw my mother and two sisters, it was as if I have been with them my whole life. I remember my sister's walked in and I hugged them so tight, and then my mother walked in third. I remember she pulled me in and we both just cried. I knew growing up that I would one day reunite with my mother as it was a mission of mine. I was going to find her, and I did after 14 years. From the age of 4 until 18 I wondered if I would ever see or hear from her again, and I vowed I would never give up until I did. Growing up without my mother was rough as it is for any other child, however, it has allowed me to become someone who values and promises to be loyal. I'm one of the most loyal people you'll ever meet. When I saw other youths with their mother it always struck a cord for me. All the birthdays. Christmases. School graduations. Throughout it all I hoped I would make her proud when I found her. I still lived my life wanting to make my mom proud. I hope I did. I hope I do. I love my mom and all 4 of my sister's so much, and I am so proud I never gave up trying to find my mother. I miss her and my sister's all the time, but I know no matter the distance between us the love will never stop.
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Thank you so much Christine!!! I value you and Angel so much!
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The two superpowers we all have access to that will help us overcome? The power of adaptation, and the power of self-education. I was able to create the story and co-write the script for @photographicmemorymovie with the support of my friend Dustin, and the awareness of knowing the education and information is out there. Once I was able to find the information, I spent over 8 months studying and learning how to write a script. With the internet these days the access for knowledge is truly remarkable. What truly matters is the ability to actually commit to studying it, and then committing to executing what you've studied. It wasn't an easy journey, I went through numerous story ideas, and after almost 9 months we finished the story. My passion and my focus for this project was set genuine. I invested so much time in reading and studying that when it came time to write the script I was ready to go. I read legit scripts of my favorite movies and scripts for movies that fit what I was going for. I didn't sleep some nights. I would study, and then I would exercise what I studied and then worked on the script. I was told "No" often for ideas, and those rejections were important as it helped me learn through every mistake. I was able to complete this project because of how focused I remained on my WHY. I knew what I wanted from this story and I focused on seeing it through. No school. No college. Didn't cost me anything. I used Google and YouTube. The knowledge is there, you just need to show up, read, and then execute. When you execute you need to make sure your WHY is genuine, if it's fake you'll lose. You need to sacrifice time with friends to read and study. I had to miss out on lots of good times, and as a result the short film has won 5 awards, and had been nominated 3 times! Hard work and focus always pays off in due time. Make sure to work hard until it does. Don't quit.
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Life is going to be full of problems, stress, obstacles, etc. we all know this. However, what seems to be a popular issue is people have struggles with overcoming them as they don't know how to respond to problems. The main response you'll see is they spend a tremendous amount of time repeating the problem to themselves and others, as opposed to investing time into a solution. When you develop and garner a solution focused Mindset as opposed to a problem focused, you allow yourself more positivity. Every problem is a solution waiting yo be found. Find the solution. Execute the solution with laser focus. Solve the problem. Repeat. Problem-->Find Solution-->Invest time to execute the solution-->Solve the problem-->Repeat. That's the process of a solution focused Mindset. And when you have a solution focused Mindset problems won't be a problem anymore. I understand the value to this process as I use it all the time, and looking back on when I didn't use it, I realize how many problems I allowed to be huge instead of taking the time to focus on the solution of the problem. Every problem you solve is strength and confidence garnered. Don't allow yourself to lose that strength and confidence to laziness, complaining, whining, and procrastination. Focus ALL energy on the solution or allow the problem to remain a problem.
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Arrogance is often the disguise for insecurity or the blatant exposure of great amount of ego. Confidence is garnered through execution and being aware of your growth. Do your best at all times and be amazed with the confidence you'll garner. Or you can speak of how you're the best without proven results, and risk losing all respect. Arrogance is NEVER a choice to be made, its a mindset to avoid as it truly is a losing one. Confidence is attractive. Confidence is positive. Confidence is part of the winning mindset.
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Throwback to my debut as an international selling author! This was such an accomplishment as it was the beginning to my journey to find platforms to help me inspire and support youths. Within a week the book was top 20 for sales on Amazon.com! The reviews on the book were very positive and genuine. This was the first step in living my dream as an established author. Months before this project I was so fed up I was considering giving up on my Passion for writing. I am glad I chose to remain persistent and worked hard. I learned then that the sooner you quit you realize how close you were to accomplishing the goal. The key is simple..never quit! "Success only shows up when you do first." Coach Dave Matthew Boddy
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If you want to succeed you need to discontinue sabotaging yourself. You need to prioritize your health. Budget your time wisely. Exercise more. Drink more water and eat healthier. Read and research more. Too many sabotage themselves daily for their success. Your choices play a HUGE part in your success. It's time you make the choices that will benefit you and no longer sabotage you. Commit to becoming a better version of yourself DAILY. The goal is to grow.
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Hold yourself accountable. YOU are the one who controls your emotions and reactions. 100%.
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NEW side project with my family @patriciadiazclaudia @official_jacob_millard @official_julianna_diaz and we are called the PumpUp FAMILEE! The goal with this project is to help inspire youths and families through EduTainment. Where we will share jokes, comedy, quotes, and inspiration to help you all laugh! Please feel free to follow the profile here: @pump_up_familee
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I hear it all the time, "He/she has a tremendous amount of Potential!". The truth is potential is what you could possibly be, and the goal is to not rely on potential. Your mindset should be on what you ARE going to be as you're working towards it. Potential is just a rough idea for those who wish to settle of what they're capable of. A successful mindset doesn't rely on potential, they rely fully on effort. Effort is what allows you to get to where you wish to be, not potential. Potential to be honest is useless. Potential is just a fancy way of saying, "I guess I could try to see if it's possible." Never rely on potential. Rely 100% on effort, it will get you further. Potential is for those who wish to settle to focus on, effort is what the successful apply on a daily basis, and that's why they win.
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When someone offers to do something for you for free, it's best to not be thankful to save money, but the fact they're giving you something they can never get back. Their time. Money can be replenished, however, time is truly gone when it is spent. There is NO way to ever get that time back. This is why time is the most valuable way to show your support for someone. Think of it this way, we spend time on a task to make money, we then use that money. Therefore, the money someone gives you is a result of their time working for it. They chose to give you something they garnered through spending their time working for. Money means so much more than we often treat it. We work hard for it, and we invest our time into making it. Therefore, when someone offers to do something for free they truly are spending their time ON YOU. That's truly something to be grateful for as we know that time is NEVER replenishable. Yet they chose to spend it on us. We are all on borrowed time and we have no idea when our last tick will be, this is why I coach so passionately on using YOUR time wisely. I coach how important your time is, as it's truly unknown when our time is up. This is why it's crucial to spend your time being the best version of you, and you this with making passion your purpose. It's time to be very particular and strict with how you spend your time, and who you spend it on. We are all spending time with the knowing we never make it back, yet often we waste our time. Nothing is ever free, it always costs time. The truth is we can never be rich with time, we are only given a certain amount and that's all we have. Spend it wisely. Money is a way we measure how rich someone is by how much they have, but when we focus more in time we realize we are all equal. We can't make more time. We can't produce it. We can't create it. We only spend it. How are you spending your time? Evaluate it daily. Time budgeting is crucial to success. Every second wasted becomes a minute, and a minute becomes an hour, and an hour becomes a day, and before you know it you've waste so much time that you'll regret it. Remember: EVERYTHING costs time, spend it wisely.
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Flashback to the night when my bestie @sundayomony and I met with Calgary Mayor, @nenshi at @shawtvnational for a special Q&A where Sunday and I were invited to appear. "the best part of memories are those you share them with, and those you learned from during them." Coach Dave Matthew Boddy
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Those 5 people who you are closest to and often see are the ones who have the most influence on you. If you're associated with people who are full of excuses, drama, complaints, and reasons to why you should never pursue your dreams or goals, you need a new top 5. Your top 5 should be people who add value to you, and not toxicity. Imagine hanging around a few new people who are driven, ambitious, positive, passionate, and determined...and then imagine hanging around your current top 5 who are negative, complacent, complaining, making excuses, and refuse to support you. How do you think you'll feel around your current top 5? You'll likely feel uncomfortable, miserable, lazy, and you'll likely realize after being around the positive top 5 that the current 5 are no longer worth your time. This is why it is crucial to connect with people who are motivated, ambitious, passionate, and positive. You will see the difference of your current top 5 when you begin to associate with a new top 5. It's then you'll understand the power of association, and why it is crucial to have a top 5 that adds value and not toxicity. Successful people don't associate with laziness, drama, excuses, complainers, or people who are negative. Successful people only associate with those who have the success they wanted and people who are VERY positive and add value. They realize the power of association. If you are the most motivated and focused person in a room, you need to find a new room. You can't be around positivity and then go around negativity and feel positive. Once you experience the positivity you strive for, you'll be very uncomfortable around negativity. I understand this first hand. I've cut ties with so many people over the last 5 years and connected new ones with amazing people, and I was able to learn the power of association quickly. It matters. My life has changed dramatically ever since I've cut ties with toxic people and only allowed people in my life who add value. Do the same. Evaluate. Cut ties. Set the standard for those who you associate with. And be amazed with the results.
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Life is not about procrastinating, it's not about hesitation, and it's now about just dreaming. Life is about creating, doing, accomplishing. Contrary to popular belief, life isn't about a dreadful, boring, and duplicated pattern that many by default pursue. You're on borrowed time, and we have no idea when our time is up. Therefore, a great life is one that's lived through creation. Create that brand. Create that business. Create opportunity for chasing your passion. Create that project you've been thinking of. Create that goal to achieve your dream. Create. Create. Create. You don't need permission to create your life. You don't need someone to do it for you as no one can. Spend the time you have creating your legacy. Life is about growing. It's about adapting. It's about progression. It's about accomplishment. It's about being the first of you. Make a promise to yourself right NOW that you won't waste anymore time procrastinating, however, you'll invest time in creating. Life is about creation. Create your life right NOW!
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We have all been wronged and hurt in the past, and it will likely happen again in the future. When this happens the instinctive reaction for many is to do to them what they've done to you. I get it, however, I also get why becoming a hypocrite is never the choice. When you make the choice to do to someone else what they've done to you, you only add gasoline to the fire. The only thing you'll accomplish is lost credibility and you'll end up affecting your image, not theirs. I've been betrayed in the past. I've been used. I've been assaulted. I've been lied to. And I have made the choice in the past myself to be a hypocrite, and nothing positive ever came of it. The consistent feeling I had after choosing to be a hypocrite was regret. I chose to become a bully in grade 6 after I was held down and had rocks and Razor blades thrown at me. It solved nothing, I didn't feel better. I didn't feel stronger, actually I felt even weaker than before as I knew I made a dishonorable choice. Making the choice to do the exact same thing someone has done to you, only places you in the same spot they are in. People have this belief that revenge is the best option and the best form of revenge is to do exactly the same thing to the other person. How does this solve the issue? That's just it, it doesn't. It never has. I've learned through my mistakes and choices that you have to be the bigger person otherwise the issue still remains the same. There is honor in forgiving and moving on. It's not cowardice. It's not being weak. It's not wrong. It's actually the mature and honorable choice. When you choose to be the bigger person and forgive and walk away, it allows the situation to stop as you're not feeding into it. You've thrown a wrench into that machine. Being the bigger person allows you to remain calm, rid the toxicity, and know you made the right choice. Being a hypocrite is NEVER the answer. Hypocrisy is for the losing mindset.
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Too many have this feeling that just because their dream means everything to them, and they really want It, that their dream should just be given to them. And this is a losing mindset. Whenever you feel entitlement is worthy of success, you've already failed. Dreams come to those who show up first and commit to effort. Those who simply rely on "law of attraction" without applying the "law of effort" will always lose. You must commit to effort. You must understand the journey means so much more than the destination. So many are driven towards the destination that when they don't like the journey, or they see the journey as a chore, they quit. The journey is what weeds out those who are entitled. The journey is what makes you realize how bad you want the destination. If it is an easy journey to the destination we would have zero success stories to find inspiration from. Those who overcome the journey by realizing how crucial it is, are the very ones who are remembered forever. Duplicates are never remembered, it's always the originals, it's always the first who are remembered. Enjoy the journey. Love the journey. Embrace the journey struggles and failures. Keep on the journey, and I promise you the destination will be a reality.
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https://medium.com/@davemboddy/how-passion-helps-you-become-the-best-version-of-you-final-message-e448d8c1cbd2 Final Message This is the last chapter of my first book which is in the plans to be published physically in the near future. Thank you to all of those who have taken the time to not only read the chapters, but to also message me and inform me how the book has inspired them. That truly is my intent with this debut book. My second book, "Train harder than you dream: Mindset of a champion" will be published in a few months chapter by chapter as well on Medium. #coachdmboddy #trainharderthanyoudream
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"Make the hard decision and be the first of you."
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https://medium.com/@davemboddy/how-passion-helps-you-become-the-best-version-of-you-chapter-17-8dc7f64b36b2 Chapter 17: "Passion is YOUR purpose." In this chapter I speak about how making the choice to make passion my purpose helped me become the best version of myself, and how it WILL do the same for you. #coachdmboddy #trainharderthanyoudream
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The power of positivity for you and others.
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