I edited this poem this morning, but I wrote it in February 2016, nearly two years ago after going on a date I thought was supposed to be a casual dinner between two friends. I was extra naive about male intentions in that era of my life, but I had rejected this person once and assumed that one “no” would be enough to make my feelings clear. It will always make me uncomfortable watching men, even the most attractive and heroic ones, push women past their boundaries. Always. Always. I’m glad people are talking about this now and hope that more and more people notice how pervasive the worship of male aggression is in our society and that people will stop thinking of me as a killjoy during romcoms or Star Wars because it all comes from really watching. Thank you for reading, and please scream at Ross Gellar on your tv tonight, for me. The end. #poem#metoo#starwars#satc#thenotebook#no#onlyyesmeansyes#everydaysexism#pussypower
“No we’re not broken.” Today I visited the photo exhibition of the “Week to fight rape culture,” organised by the GRape project. On their skin, victims of sexual violence have messages written for all of us. Go to Luna’s Story on Facebook for more information and come see it for yourself at Loungebar 1050 at VUB. #onlyyesmeansyes#mybodymychoice#deweekvan#theweekof#wearevub#metoo
We teach girls & women to accommodate for men who rape, who sexually assault, who coerce and gaslight for sex. We teach girls & women to walk with their keys between their knuckles at night, to not show too much of their body unless they want to risk a man taking his sexual attraction too far, to not leave drinks unattended - even at parties with males they know, to not get too drunk. We teach girls to change their actions.
Why don't we teach men to change their actions?
Fathers & brothers are wary of boys and men around their daughters and sisters. Men know what men are like. Yet we do nothing to change what men are like.
It is not that men are simply more sexual than women, that they absolutely need to have lot's of sex. It is how we raise our boys and men. It is in the friendships we keep with creeps. It is in the silence after an inappropriate comment about or to a woman.
#halloweenweekend Costumes or Cosplay are never Consent. #onlyyesmeansyes Draw the Line this weekend if you see something you are uncomfortable with. 🌟ask a friend to help you help someone else 🌟ask someone who may be being targeted if the are okay 🌟if you are in Residence talk to a Don or Supervisor 🌟 there are lots of ways to step in and make a difference - if you see something - you have the power to do something 🌟 #lakercommunity#lakersareactivebystanders .
Reposted image from #rosecitycomiccon
When I was 16 my 40-something y/o boss used to tickle me at work when I had my hands full. I laughed it off.
It’s not a big deal. It’s just an example. He’s not a bad guy. It was so long ago... But it’s still not easy to hit ‘OK’ on this post
Art via @kellyetz
#metoo the day has come that we can make our voices heard. we will not be silenced. this movement is meant to show how vast the problem in our society is. victim shaming, or the "no one will believe you" has got to stop. the assault has got to stop. #onlyyesmeansyes#strongerthanmystory
I know I'm early but I wanted to get this info out in time for you to adjust accordingly! with the current climate on #race#politics and #sexuality Halloween is an easy way to catch that L! Don't do it, do be that guy or gal that dresses in blackface or as a Native American or anything else that marginalizes a culture. be smart and keep it 💯#ThingsIveLearned #leadershipisaverb#cultureisnotacostume
I don’t know a single woman, myself included, who has not at some point in her life experienced sexual harassment or assault in one form or another.
Sadly, we have all been cat-called, whistled at, groped, grabbed, relentlessly hit on, called a tease for being friendly but not wanting more, called a bitch for turning someone down, called a slut or a whore, drugged so some spineless coward could attempt to have their way with us, degraded and abused verbally, emotionally or physically, raped and so on.
All of these UNWANTED advances or events are harassment or assault. And as the perpetrator, you don’t get to decide if it is wanted or unwanted. I don’t care how tight her skirt is, how much cleavage she is showing, if she gave you all the “signs” that she wanted you, gave you her number, let you take her to dinner, a kiss, sent a sexy picture, even had sex with you before... none of those things mean that you can put your hands on her without permission. And the only thing that gives you permission is the word yes! Phrases like “did you see what she was wearing/how she was acting? She was asking for it” and “boys will be boys” are not acceptable. Without express consent, and both parties being willing, coherent, and conscious, each and every time, it’s harassment or assault.
Those who have experienced these things aren’t the ones who should be made to feel shame. Those who prey on other people are the ones who should. If you’ve experienced harassment or assault, hold your head high. There is nothing that you’ve done that warrants being treated with such disrespect. Don’t view yourself as damaged, broken or a victim for what someone else chose to put you through, but rather as a victor; strong and capable for facing such things and not allowing them to define you.
Because there are so many women in my life who I know have been groped, catcalled, harassed and raped.
No. They weren’t asking for it. No one is ever asking for something like this no matter what you were raised to believe.
No. It isn’t a compliment. Stop making this the narrative. Cat calling isn’t okay.
I hope this movement will have an impact on some. Stop with the empty words and stop victim blaming then maybe just maybe victims would feel comfortable coming forward. Also please realize we are humans. Whether or not you have a sister women will be human and deserving of respect.