When you spend so much of your life feeling like you are not enough, you tend to turn to outside "things" to fill the void. If I have this, then I can be happy. If I wear this, then I will fit in. When I am 20 pounds lighter, then I will love what I see in the mirror. When I get this promotion, then I will know that I have made it. We hinge our happiness on contingencies.
I played that game for a really long time. I'd buy, I'd change, I'd say yes, I'd lose weight...all in hopes of achieving a sense of peace within. It was all just bandaids. It would help momentarily, but then without fail, those feelings of worthlessness would creep right back in.
What I've learned is that contentment is an inside job. Changing who I am and how I feel or what I look like in hopes of fitting in just left me feeling worse and confused. Who was I anyways? I was a chameleon. I'd change just to fit my surroundings and was afraid to show up as my authentic self.
When I discovered minimalism, it wasn't just about decluttering my home. It was about discovering who the heck I was after all these years. I was finding out what my passions are, what my opinions are. I was finding out what style I loved and what kind of parent I wanted to be. It was an amazing feeling to finally stand in my integrity without worrying about what anyone else thought.
Too bad it took me 30 years to truly find myself, turns out I'm not so bad after all 😉
Today, I am grateful for life! Weeks full of trials emphasize the blessings of breath in my lungs, the ability to think & be conscious, positive perspectives & an exstensive support system! I claim triumph through trial ✌🏾🌲 #growthmindset#life#grateful#hopeful
PAUSE | This week I’m setting my mind on what is above not beneath - the eternal not the temporary.
As part of that, I’m taking part in a social media blackout for the next week and using that time to go deeper and grow stronger.
Read my post ´Fast Focus’ to understand a little more about fasting and it’s true benefits - it may encourage you to do the same. See you on the other side ❤️
One year ago I never would have thought that working out would be a key activity in my “work day”
A year ago I had no idea how much I loved to help people until I had the right platform, tools, and resources to do it
I never would have dreamed a year ago that my purpose in life was to build confidence in people by simply helping them reach their goals
One year ago, I had no clue I would be building a business from home on my terms
A lot can happen in a year! And it all started with a decision to give something different a chance
This year is focused on duplicating my results in others. I want to help as many people as I can do the exact same thing I did this last year in terms of health, personal growth, income, and freedom. And I have a strategy, training program, and tools and resources to do it
But the reality is, not just anyone is willing to do the work it takes to be successful at it. If you don’t want to be where you’re at in a year from now, start making changes now!
I’m looking to start working with four people in February who aren’t afraid to make a difference in other people’s lives. Four people to be accountability partners together in a new business venture helping people get their crap together with awesome resources and simple strategies
I’ll equip you with everything you need
My next training kicks off in February, so we need to start having discussions now
Tag anyone you think might be a good fit or shoot me a DM if interested!
k i n d n e s s |
selfless. with love. giving from the soul. unconditional.
generosity may be one of the most important way to achieve human happiness. when we give to others. whether it’s material. or physical. it creates a powerful emotional bond between us. connection.
i remember an exercise i did at a spiritual retreat. my group decided to buy balloons. we were on a very popular street in santa monica and handed out the balloons. to children. to grandparents. to husband and wives. to college students. nearly everyone. when we paused to look around. the street was full of joy. balloons everywhere. we literally raised the vibration of the street with kindness.
giving affects our emotional well being. it increases our self esteem. helps us to feel more connected to others. to develop a sense of meaning. and purpose. both in our relationships and the passions we pursue.
not often are we able to have a visual of happiness to match our feelings. to see our impact. this was incredibly magical. being able to help others and simply enjoy doing so was liberating. it truly was a gift to give that day.
too many of us believe we have no power to make a difference. i have entertained the thought many times. but have learned making a difference often takes time. and our kindness may not grow roots until long after we have fertilized the flower beds.
i do not know what all those people went and did the rest of the evening. but i know i felt amazing. i know when i ran out of balloons i started holding doors open. smiling at strangers. glowing from the inside out. because i was authentically myself.
focus on the act of giving. rather than the results of actions. detach from outcome. and you will be free to make a difference in ways you never imagined.
buy the person behind you coffee. let someone go in front of you in line. let that car in when merging. no matter what situation you find yourself in. come from a place of kindness. let go of complicated. choose simple. make people smile. that is the way to change the world.
photo x @karlycakesss
Our group listened + used our voices to create this grid, with selfie time to spare! 🤳🏼
I am very thankful my whole team is at @TheSalonAndSpaInstitute Trifecta training. Watching Alyssa collaborate, Rach trust herself, Brooke organize, + I trust them all! 👯♀️👯♀️
Repost from @mariamena_official because her lyrics always touch my heart. Especially last night with this song “Growing Pains”. .
Last night, I had a chance to reflect. An opportunity to reflect on my life and my mistakes and the pain I have gone through. I realized that all this pain brought me to where I am today. Sometimes it really sucked. Sometimes I could explain the pain. There were easy explanations. Other times, I just was hollow for no specific reason. The pain could have me cry for days, not be able to get out of bed or it could have me wanting to run away and just drive anywhere. The pain had me reach out to people that maybe I wouldn’t have reached to otherwise. The pain had me lose people – some for the better and some for the worse.
The pain also taught me some important lessons. The pain had me learn the type of people I want around me. The pain had me learn how to get through some of the hardest times of my life on my own. The pain had me learn how to be by myself. The pain had me learn that it’s okay to let things go. The pain had me learn that I’m going to be okay no matter what. The pain taught me that I’m stronger than I think. The pain taught me that everything would work out eventually.
These weren’t easy lessons, and sometimes it’s tough to see in the moment of the pain and even be okay with. But if it weren’t for all the bullshit that I have gone through – I wouldn’t be where I am today. A lot of this pain came from change, but it also came from fearing it. It’s usually a sense of growth. You grow from the pain. You grow from the changes. It doesn’t make it any easier. It doesn’t help justify the pain. But knowing this helps me get through it, because I know I will.
What one eats is only part of the picture of health! If you want to see optimal results with your nutrition goals, there are other practices you can incorporate into your daily routine. If you start small and add one or two new habits into your daily routine, you will likely be less stressed, healthier, and reaching your nutrition goals will be that much easier. .🔥
✅ Exercise 🏃♀️ .
✅ Water consumption 💦 .
✅ Journaling 📖 .
✅ Meditation🧘🏼♂️ .
✅ Mindful Breathing ☯️ .
✅ Self-care 🛀 .
✅ Adequate and restful sleep 😴 .
A huge benefit to being so organized with my schedule each week is that I can carve out time for all the special moments💗
I can carve out time where I need to have family fun, connect with friends, watch my son play hockey or just reflect and have some quiet me time. I can work as little or as much as I want.
Because during the week, when I'm choosing to work, my head is focused and on task. I am insanely productive throughout the week because my work blocks are scheduled into my calendar.
Any other time, like on the weekends, I'm not thinking about work things because I've scheduled my time appropriately. And if it's in my schedule, it's no longer being stored in my brain....which is essential in being truly present on the weekends with my loved ones and myself.
High performance management is essential in juggling all the pieces.
How did your weekend go? If you spent a lot of time stressing or thinking about this past week, or all you need to get done this upcoming week - I challenge you this week to really implement a schedule.
Not just for major appointments; schedule in EVERYTHING. Time block your entire week and put all of your priorities, your must-do's, your deadlines, your self-care, your down time - put it all in your schedule.
Having an organized schedule is so key to being productive during the week, but also to being present and relaxed when you can be. Trust your schedule to keep you on track so you don't have to remember everything yourself.
Download my free daily planner to help you get started:
FAST FOCUS| Sometimes you just have to help yourself refocus.
Sometimes the decision has to be made to put aside distraction and put clarity and purpose first.
Sometimes the only way to hear which way to go is to silence all other noise.
That is what fasting does.
I’ve been fasting this month but it’s time to take it up a notch. Fasting doesn’t change God, it changes us and all for the better. Read my post ´Fast Focus’ to understand a little more about fasting and it’s true benefits ❤️
Girlfriend - if you’ve been following my coaching journey for a while ... all I’m wondering is why NOT you now?!?
Because I am looking for 10 motivated ladies [all shapes and sizes welcome!] who want to get PAID to live a healthy & fit lifestyle 💪🏼 while sharing your journey on social media!!! No need to be a pro because I’ll provide you with a full training program. But you DO need to be a GO GETTER, self motivated, & have the desire to help others.
If that’s YOU, then let’s chat girlfriend! You can EARN a part time [like me] or full time income, fully paid trips, & join our tribe of like-minded positive women who’ve built an empire from home.
Send me an email👇
or DM me directly for more info! ❤️
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Today, I spoke with stranger for 15 minutes in the grocery store simply because we were from the same country. She showed me her gold Panamanian jewelry and I showed her my Panamá tattoo & we talked about how we miss being there...it filled my soul🌷🌜🌛🌿
Are you bringing value to the world around you? If you feel lost and unsure of how you can best give your value to the world, send me a message so I can see how I can best help!
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every time I lose my balance,
I get better at regaining it.
every time my world feels like it's spinning,
I learn to ride the waves.
every time I get a little lost,
I learn to grow roots where it matters.
every time I fail to use my voice,
my voice thunders a little louder the next time it counts.
every time I weep from confusion of not having answers,
I emerge realizing I don't need them.
every time I'm humbled,
I open up my opportunities to learn.
every time I am misunderstood,
I learn how to understand others.
every time I fear any of the former things, I remember what the latter things bring me💙 #embraceyournow
📸 my soon to be traveling nugget @veggiekins